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“Proactive people focus their efforts on things they can to something about. The nature of their energy is positive.” ~ Stephen Covey

We are a few days into the New Year – the traditional time for people to take stock of their situation and make resolutions and decisions on how this year will be. If we poll the people who made New Year resolutions in the middle of summer, more than half won’t be able to remember them. Many won’t remember their resolutions by the end of January. And if they do, they will have a good excuse why they can’t keep them.

Why not? Because with no strategy, no momentum, there are no results.

Results

Most resolutions are a desired result. “I want to lose 50 pounds.” “I want a new job.”

All fine and well. But, why are you setting this goal? Is it because it is something you want (proactive) or something someone else wants you to do (reactive).

If you are trying to do something because your wife/husband, parent, friend, has been after you to do it, you lose. Right from the beginning, you lose. This with their goal for you, this is not your goal.

But, if I get a new job that makes more money, I can move. So, is moving your goal then? Why do you want to move?

Setting a goal requires thought and realizing the real reason for that goal. And if you do not own that goal, you will never have the motivation to attain it.

Strategy

So you set a goal or a resolution that is truly your own. You own it, you want it. Now, you need to figure out the how. What is the best path of actions that you can take to make it happen? What if your first idea doesn’t work out, do you have a Plan B, or C, or D? Can you see any walls that you might hit for any reason? And, more importantly, how will you overcome them?

This is where many people quit and get defensive or why they can’t or won’t reach their goal. This is where real winners look to see what other options are available and which might result in achieving the goal.

This is where making choices is very important. If your goal is to lose weight and you eat out frequently, you may need to select new places to dine. Places that serve meals that are in line with better eating habits and losing weight. You can’t blame the restaurant. It’s your choice to patronize it or not.

Momentum

The best way to stick with a goal or resolution is to have short range goals or milestones along the way. Each milestone should be attainable in a shorter period of time. When the milestone is reached, have a celebration. The energy and experience of these celebrations will fuel your spirit to keep going until you get to the end.

You may want to enlist the help of a support team along the way. Be sure to select people who truly support your efforts. Their energy coupled to your energy will make the experience more enjoyable and attainable.

So make those resolutions, set those goals, and then focus on your end result and milestones. It will happen because you have the determination to do it.

Linda Watson-Call has a history of achieving her goals and succeeding through difficulties. She is the author of the forthcoming book Harnessing Your Abundance.
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“A strong, positive self-image is the best possible preparation for success.” ~Joyce Brothers

Sit back for a minute and think about all the successful people you know, either personally or from the media. Think about how they stand, how they move, and how much space they take up, how they interact with others.

Now think about, or sit in a mall, and people watch. Using the same criteria, do you prejudge a person by the way they carry themselves and their interactions with others? Of course you do. We all do.

Now think about yourself. Do you change your stance based on your situation or are you consistent? Do you feel successful or wish you had a little something else to attain your goals?

How you perceive yourself is how you present yourself to others. And how you prepare yourself is essential to how you will be perceived. Creating a strong self-image is a skill that is not easily achieved, but with practice and believing in yourself, it can happen.

Stance

Think about the time you were successful at something. You stood taller, felt good, and smiled. Remember that feeling. Every time you feel uncertain, rethink that feeling and act it out. The move you act successful, the easier it will be to always look successful.

Movement

Successful people move. They move like they know where they are going, even if they’re lost! A quick, snappy gait shows confidence and determination. Two more traits of a successful person. People who look confused and more slowly are less likely to be chosen for anything. No matter how you feel or how tired you think you are – move with determination.

Space

Even the smallest person can appear to take up the most space. The more space you need, the more success you portray. If you are sitting in a chair with arms, place one elbow on each arm. Notice how that simple movement increases your chest size. When standing, arms at the side or slightly away from your body. Don’t lean against things. The more space you take up, the more authority and confidence you portray.

Interactions

Successful people make eye-contact. They lean into the person who is speaking, making that person feel that what they are saying is important. They gesture when talking or making comments and speak with authority. Their sentences end as a statement, not as a question. If they are not sure of something, they say they will check on it, but, they do sound apologetic because they didn’t know.

All of these traits take practice, but the more they are practiced, the more you start to naturally portray the image of a self-confident person, poised for success.

Linda Watson-Call has a history of achieving her goals and succeeding through difficulties. She is the author of the forthcoming book Harnessing Your Abundance.

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“Life begins when you do.” ~ Hugh Downs, American Broadcaster

I hear it all the time, and I’m sure you her it to, or maybe you even say it – “He has a good life.” “Wish my life was as good as hers.”

Call it wishful thinking. But, we only see the “life” that others show us. What we don’t see, unless they care to share with us, what they do, how they do it, to have the good life.

If you really look at the lives of these people, you will find some similar traits.

Goals

People who live the good life have goals. They don’t always achieve those goals. They may have to switch to Plan B on the way. But, they all know what they want from life, set a goal, plan the steps, allow for flexibility, then, they do it. It’s the “do it” part that makes it happen. The wanting does nothing but the doing does everything. And the good life is all about moving and doing, not watching and waiting for something to happen.

Ideals

People who live the good life have high ideals. You can call them models, standards, or morals. They have an unshakable conviction is doing the right thing correctly. Sometimes this means passing up what others might think is a good opportunity because they feel it would undermine their beliefs. And, they can do it with no regrets because they are always focused on their goal.

Community

People who live the good life also are involved in their community. They do more than donate money or goods for a cause. These are the people who find the time for others and do what needs to be done in their town, school, or church communities. And they are happy to be there working alongside the other members of the group.

It’s the “doing” that permeates the souls of these people. It’s the “doing” that creates their happiness and satisfaction with life. It’s the “doing” that makes life good.

Where are you going to start your “do” to create your good life?

Linda Watson-Call has a history of achieving her goals and succeeding through difficulties. She is the author of the forthcoming book Harnessing Your Abundance.

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In the sky, there is no distinction between east and west; people create distinctions out of their own minds and then believe them to be true. ~ Buddha

 

Everything is neutral, everything is meaningful. In nature, everything has a purpose or a reason for being, even if we are unaware of it. Humans seem to have a need to attach meaning to events that occur. And some events, simple in their own way, bring different reactions depending on a person’s circumstances.

Yesterday’s rainbow is a prime example. The picture in this blog was taken by a friend and promptly posted on Face Book. Actually, hers was one a hundreds of rainbows – single rainbows, double rainbows, complete rainbows, and partial rainbows filled newsfeeds last night. Most comments were ooo’s and ah’s on the beauty of the rainbow and the meaning that it held for the person making the comment.

However, I also knew that rain is needed to create this beautiful phenomenon in nature. Minutes before the pictures appeared my husband called to tell me he was looking at a beautiful double rainbow. In his next breath he also said the our hay, that was dry and ready for baling was wet and he would not be able to bale until the next day after teddering, raking, and windrowing the hay again. This hay was cut for our cattle, so, even though the rain was not welcome, it wouldn’t have an adverse effect on the crop.

The soil in our area has been very dry this year, and the farm a mile away welcomed the rain and the splendid rainbow because it meant survival for the crops.

And so it continues. Something as innocent as rain and the rainbow are welcomed, enjoyed, or scorned depending on circumstances.

Your truth, my truth, and the truth of others all depends on where we are in life. What holds true for you today?

Linda Watson-Call has a history of achieving her goals and succeeding through difficulties. She is the author of the forthcoming book Harnessing Your Abundance.

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“We learn more by looking for the answer to a question and not finding it than we do from learning the answer itself.” ~ Lloyd Alexander

Sometimes, I think, we put too much emphasis on the “right answer” and not enough on learning how to learn. In many instances there are good answers and better answers but not one and only one right answer. Our education process has taught us by rote and not through exploration so we are stuck in thinking that there is only one answer.

Granted, the capitols of the state have only one correct answer, but it your research a particular state and its capitol, you may learn that there were several cities that were named the capitol of the state until the current capitol was selected.

When we look at science, in many cases it was the experiment that failed that created a new discovery in a completely different area.

And the same holds true for our lives. We look for the answer to happiness, career fulfilment, and wealth only to learn that the answer may change for each individual and even for one individual over the years.

If we are open to experimenting, trying different venues, and considering all the options available to us, instead of selecting one because it worked for a friend, we may learn that we have talents and skills that have yet to be developed.

We will also learn what doesn’t fit in our lifestyle, not because we think it wouldn’t appeal to us, but because we tried it and we know it is not something we could do for any length of time.

So explore life and all its options. You may discover that the answer you were looking for in a new and exciting lifestyle.

Linda Watson has a history of achieving her goals and succeeding through difficulties. She is the author of the forthcoming book Harnessing Your Abundance.

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“Shall we make a new rule of life from tonight: always to try to be a little kinder than is necessary? ~ James Barrie”

More than ever it seems, we are rushed, we are distracted, we are busy trying to get through the day without any thought of the people we come in contact with.

On our way home from work, the light turns green but the person in the vehicle in front of us hasn’t started moving yet. Our thoughts or our mouth goes to “Quit day dreaming, the light’s green!” The traffic light may be green but the driver is stuck on red. Just lost his job and is thinking about how he’s going to pay bills and feed his kids while she looks for a new job. Be kind.

As we check out at the grocery store, the clerk seems more engaged with the bagger than with us, the customer, and her job. We feel the interaction should be with the customer, not the other employee. As we fume, we hear that the bagger’s child was just diagnosed with Juvenile Diabetes and the clerk was trying to offer some support. Can we say to the bagger to ease her mind or just leave? Be kind – say something comforting to her.

Our co-worker has been coming in late to work almost every day for the past week. We want to say something to our manager since someone has to take up her slack for that 15 or 20 minutes when she isn’t there. She also seems to be on her phone more and more. Another co-worker finds out that her mother was just released from the hospital and had to move in with her. She is trying to co-ordinate help for her mother and schedule in-home care as well as follow-up appointments with her mother’s doctor. Be kind – offer to pick up some of her work to relieve some of the stress.

If we only didn’t judge without knowing the reasons, if we could only be a little kinder to each other, we could change their world and ours as well.

Linda Watson-Call has a history of achieving her goals and succeeding through difficulties. She is the author of the forthcoming book Harnessing Your Abundance.

wishful thinking

A goal without a plan is just a wish. ~ Antoine de Saint-Exupery

In my conversations with people, I find this repetitive theme. People want a better or different life, but don’t know where to start. They want change, they are not happy, but, they lack direction. They don’t realize that change just doesn’t happen, that change isn’t done for them, that change has to be an effort that they not only take part in, but have an input into how it will happen.

Where do you want to go?

Change requires looking into yourself. If you are not happy or satisfied with your life, what would make you happy? Focus on your discontent, then look at what needs to change. Now you have a new focus. It could be your job – and you need to look for a new company or even a new career. If you aren’t satisfied with your child’s school – do you need to move your child to a different school or home school? Now you have your focus.

Where are you now?

When using Google maps to chart a course, not only is the address of the destination entered, but also the current location. If you want to move to your new destination, you have to consider where you are. If you want a new job, what would you like to see different in your current position. A new career? Think about the dissatisfaction in your current career. A new school for your child? What would you like to change with the current school?

Once you know where your frustration lies and where you would like to take yourself, you need to assess the situation.

What needs to happen?

Making a change can be easy or it can involve a lot of work, depending on the situation. Changing jobs without changing careers can be as simple as asking friends or looking at job postings to find a new place to work. Changing careers may mean changing your skill set and years of schooling. Changing schools could mean working with your child as well as deciding which school would offer a better education.

Create the plan!

Now that you have assessed the situation and know what needs to happen, how will you do it? You might want to create a timetable to keep yourself on track. Will it involve doing some research? Will you need to do some preliminary work? Will you need to get others to agree with what you would like to do?

Write it all out. Putting it all on paper – or at least in a document in your computer – creates something tangible that you can look back on to see if you’re on target.

Always have a deadline. Each step should have a timeframe that the task needs to be completed by. This will keep you on task and motivated.

Just do it!

You have already taken the initiative to put a plan in place – now do it! If you don’t start, if you don’t complete, your only accomplishment will be putting together a very sophisticated exercise in wishful thinking.

Linda Watson-Call has a history of achieving her goals and succeeding through difficulties. She is the author of the forthcoming book Harnessing Your Abundance.